Monday, June 7, 2010
hello random posting again. friends are there for you each time when you are down. but dun make use of the kindness they shared to you . not all are willingly to stand by you every time. but at least they are your true friends in mind.
Such a friendship exists because one can offer the other something they need: advice, money, help, etc. Most of the contacts are established when person A needs something from person B, and when they meet, they happen to do other things too (watch a movie, or talk about this and that, etc).
As soon as the demand for the offered object/service is gone, the friendship fades away because there is nothing there to keep it going.
Normally I wouldn't even call this 'friendship', because it sounds more like a commercial agreement between two people; so I must point out that this is just a metaphorical expression. The difference is that you're not offering a service to an unknown person in the street, instead you're doing it for someone you're familiar with.
- Common interests (professional, academic) friendship
Colleagues at work, or at school - they face the same problems that we do, they have to cooperate with us on a daily basis, this is what we have in common and this is why we stick together.
As soon as this common thing disappears, the friendship becomes less strong; and eventually the connection weakens.
The friendship exists because people are simply attracted to each other physically; no brains involved (this can be expressed as "not much going on in the upper layers of the software level", as discussed in "On humans, personalities, software and hardware"). Won't go into the details here, this seems to be an interesting topic for another essay.
- Respect-based friendship (hybrid)
People who have such a friendship enjoy spending time together; they manage to have something in common even if they don't work/study in the same place (i.e. they were not forced to have anything in common).
They may or may not be physically attracted.
The connection cannot be reduced to a 'primitive' supply/demand type.
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i believe that you belong to the supply/demand type. but i happily with some of mty respect-based type.
take care all.
howard dead @ 11:51 PM.
